Keep Your Friends Close – Especially those who are going to help you create a better life.
Look at the five people you choose to keep close. What do they tell you?
Apparently, we are a measure of the five people we surround ourselves with and if this is true then what are your friendships telling you?
Do your friends care about you? Why have you chosen those particular people?
As we move through life, we learn different things, we accomplish different goals and it is unavoidable to experience a crisis or two along the way.
When I was growing, particularly through my teenage to late twenties I attracted dreadful people into my life, I understand now my thoughts attracted them.
The people I invited into my life to taught me lessons, the problem being I was not ready to understand the messages they carried for me.
We stumble through life being unaware of the part we are playing in this soap opera we call our lives.
We are the director, and yet we choose to hand the direction over to others.
Because of my upbringing, the fear I learned to carry with me from childhood permeated my life, I invited only fear and consequently distress into my everyday life.
‘Friends’ I attracted were not good friends, now I have the knowledge to understand they were just acquaintances and unfortunately I had a use for them.
What is the difference then today in my life between what I choose to call friends? The people I attract care for me.
I have chosen to have people in my life who have a different spiritual outlook, I surround myself with people who care about the effect they are having on other people, whose ultimate goal is to help progress society instead of hinder.
How do I choose these kindred spirits?
Simple. I do not choose, I attract.
By changing what I think about, instead of fearful insecure thoughts, I concentrate on how to help others.
I believe there is a law of attraction. I know this phrase has been somewhat overused lately and I wish I could find another term for it, however right now that is the best use of words I can find to explain what I believe.
What we think manifests itself into our lives.
For far too many years, I thought and felt fear, it permeated my every waking and sleeping hour.
My parents knew little about parenting. Back then, there was no help available to them to understand the importance of parenting their children. They both had grown up in aggressive households and survived by feeling and showing aggression themselves.
I believe their thinking was “you have to be tough to survive this world, it did me no harm” and that is what they taught us.
This is the obvious conclusion, if a generation has suffered because of war, distress, poverty or fear then inevitably they will pass this ethos onto their children.
At no time during my formative years did I have a conversation with either of my parents about my feelings, it was not important for them to understand my thinking or indeed me.
You feed, clothe and send your children to school, keep them out of trouble as much possible, but you certainly do not try to understand what is going on inside their heads.
After studying numerous forms of therapy, I have come to understand how important these formative years are. If parents are able to nurture their child and treat them as young people instead of just children, then the child in return will have the tools to live an amazing life.
Not only will they live an incredible life, they will spiritually be able to attract great positives to everyone who they meet.
What an incredible thought. By our thinking, we can help others.
Just by our thinking.
So if I attracted fear, insecurity, jealousy and selfishness throughout my teenage years, what do I hope to attract now?
By my thinking kindness, sincerity, passion for life, I can only hope to attract those things into my own life.
I not only hope this, I know this to be true.
Think what you always think attract what you always attract.
When I look at the people who are coming into my life, I feel amazement.
The people I know are sincere, they care about others, and they are kind and compassionate.
Knowledge, help and of course wisdom would have greatly helped my parents and me. If someone had been available, anyone who could have given advice about our thinking, then a good deal of anguish would have been spared.
However, there is a full circle of events occurring. Our thoughts were negative, they attracted negativity, we felt negative because of what we were attracting so attracted negativity. Can you see how it goes round and round and round?
Time to straighten out the circle; a circle has one line taking it in one direction.
Straighten out the circle in your mind and make it into a straight line. Better still give the straight line an arrow at one end and point the arrow in the direction you want your life to take.
Set yourself a goal. Think hard on what you want your goal to be.
Start by looking at the five people you have at present surrounding you and ask yourself some questions.
Are these people working for or against me? Do they really care about me? Do they want to see me advance in life? Are their intentions pure? Do they care about others? What thought patterns do they encourage in me?
When you have seriously looked at the people around you and answered the above questions honestly, what conclusion have you reached?
Maybe you are reading this article because at this time in your life you feel the need to move into a better position in your life.
We given messages constantly throughout our lives, it is up to us to listen. We are not always ready.
Are you ready?
Do you want to change?
Do you want your life to be better than before?
I believe we always have questions that we need to ask ourselves, however we are too busy doing.
We are human beings not human doings.
Time to be a human being, instead of a human doing.
Listen to your true self. Meditate and listen.
Once you listen to yourself, you are then more able to hear others. You can learn your true place in life and your reason for being here, if you just listen.